Chasing Her: A Memoir of Desire and Devotion

Our avoidance of a loving, honest relationship with sex is quietly destroying us. This is the story of a man who tried to fix that—with porn, pickup lines, money, and sex gurus—before discovering the only cure was the embodied truth.chasing Her is not a self-help book. Explicit. Uncomfortable. True.This memoir moves through college heartbreak, pickup artistry, entrepreneurship, Tantra, and the spiritual underworld of modern intimacy work—every chapter another attempt to fill a hunger that money, mastery, and mysticism couldn’t touch. It’s a raw, often funny, sometimes brutal account of one man’s education in desire, shame, and what it actually takes for a man to feel his own body, meet a woman in her full truth and aliveness, and find the kind of depth that only comes from real mutual contact.This is a book for the men who have given up on love, yet still fantasize about women in their quietest, most isolated hours. It’s for the women who feel unmet by the masculine and want to know what’s really going on underneath. And it’s for anyone caught in cycles of hurt and sexual longing, confused why ecstasy arises and vanishes in the blink of an eye—anyone ready to tango with the messy vulnerability of intimacy and discover what’s on the other side.This honest, unfiltered, and occasionally ridiculous memoir doesn’t offer a five-step plan. It offers the truth of one man’s search—so that maybe yours costs you a little less.Narrated by the author.